So, Jack Neo apologised today. I was expecting him to explain why he made such a stupid mistake. But his much anticipated ‘tell all’ turned to be only a ‘I’m sorry’ speech.
For those who don’t know about Singapore’s very own ‘Tiger Woods’ scandal’, let me give you a brief introduction.
Jack Neo, Singapore’s most successful film-maker, confessed to a two-year affair with a freelance model less than half his age after the woman exposed it by showing up at his Pasir Ris semi-detached home. A few days after that, a string of women came out to ‘air their grievances’ about how the famous director hit on them. His wife, who was surprisingly calm, told the media that she ‘doesn’t care how many women Jack has because she loves him and that she already knew about the affair for a year’. Singapore’s Foreign Minister, George Yeo, a personal friend of Jack, decided to join in the debate about the scandal, by asking Singaporeans to ‘rally around Jack and his family‘.
I understand the uproar over this incidence. Jack is supposed to be a role model just for the fact the he is the most popular and well-known director in Singapore and he was awarded the PBM in 2004 and a Cultural Medallion in 2005 for his accomplishments in the movie industry.
I also know where some social workers and Singaporeans are coming from when they feel that Mrs Neo’s ‘nonchalant’ attitude over this incident is a ‘disgrace’ to all women. ‘What value is she teaching us?!’ or ‘Is she even a woman’? is their battle cry. After all, what do couples pledge to each other when they say their marriage vows?.
But let’s pause for a moment, shall we?. Why are we baying for his blood?. I’m not supporting extra-marital affairs, but doesn’t everybody make mistakes?.
Yes, as a Christian, Jack should have remembered the ‘Thou shall not commit adultery‘ commandment. Well, he committed that sin, but who are we to judge him?. Let God judge him instead.
I think the witch hunt to find which other women he is involved with is very shameful. I mean, he already committed adultery. Would the number of women he slept with make any difference?.
I would say it’s the Neos’ curse for being famous. Would a normal guy’s extra-marital affairs gain as much attention as this?. Of course not.
I will say this to those who are baying for his blood. Stop ‘punishing’ him and his family already by trying to look for his ‘other women’. To confess about such ‘dirty linen’ in the public takes courage. Think of the ridicule that his 4 children will go through.
I believe to Jack, he is already being punished by his wife’s decision, which I must say is very brave, to forgive him, which will probably make him even more guilty. I mean, which wife would remain so calm instead of getting mad and divorcing him immediately?. Hopefully, he will learn his lesson.
I’m not one to speculate, but I believe Mrs Neo did what she did to protect her children. After all, a her children is still young. By forgiving her husband and not leaving him, she is allowing her children to grow up in a complete family setting.
So let’s respect her decisions. I believe she has already suffer a great deal by choosing this path.
But sadly for Jack, while Singaporeans are generally a forgiving bunch and his movies will still continue to entertain us, this scandal will be a black mark on his once unblemished record.
And what is Minister George Yeo’s role in this scandal?. I have no idea.
Refresh my memory, did President Barack Obama give his ‘two cents worth’ when the Tiger Wood’s scandal broke?.
I rest my case.