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The tale of the Professor and the Father.

Hello people! Sorry for not posting for so long. Couldn’t find anything that I could really talk about and make my voice heard. But thanks to the Attorney General, Professor Walter Woon, who decided to FINALLY give his views on underage sex, and a father, who should I say, is overtly concerned about how the media is influencing his precious 13 years old daughter’s mind.

Let’s start with Prof Woon a.k.a The Prof.

Prof Woon was giving a speech at the third Children’s Society Lecture and decided to address the issue of underage sex. You can find the article at Channel NewsAsia.

He accepted that times have changed, and now, its the minors themselves who go out and actively look for sexual partners and prostitute themselves.

As what I see from some of the cases that come across my desk, they go out and solicit these contacts. In one case, she solicited it in her own home, not far from where I live…..It is not just the girls, but the boys (too)… male prostitute who went on the Internet, gay chatroom to earn money….”

He went on to admit that there were loopholes in the legal system when it involves two minors having sex.

“It is not easy and this is where the NGOs, the community services play a part. Obviously, it is not just for the judges. The judges cannot do very much by themselves.

Hear hear! Singapore’s lawmakers! Are u listening?. Pass a law which doesn’t protect the minor who is obviously guilty anymore. To borrow a line from Britney Spears, a 14-year-old teen will laugh into your face and say: ‘I’m not that innocent’.

But as what my dear friend Callan firmly believes, that punishment should come with teaching, Prof Woon says: “There has to be some follow-up. Even if you send the boy to jail, or the girl to jail, or both of them to jail, there has got to be something done. Sending them to jail per se would not make them reflect on their lives. That is the last thing that is going to happen. But good or ill, this is the framework that we have”.

The jury is still out on this topic. Watch this space.

Let’s move on to the Father.

I was reading The Straits Times on Friday, when I came across this article in Review:Insight. The article was on the new Censorship Review Committee. The article was titled ‘To snip, ban, hold the line or open up further?’

Mr Kevind Kao, 58, a father of a 13-year-old teen, thinks the world has gone ‘mad’ with the relentless exposure to explicit sexual content.

His views on sex is somewhat hilarious. He said ‘To me, sex is like a handgun’. You don’t teach a child how to use a gun. You take it away from him. So why are we teaching kids to wear condoms?’.

Welcome to the real world Mr Kao. As our friend, Prof Woon, who finally came back from his own world, I believe you will one day come to realise that prevention is better than refusing to accept that teens are more pro-active when it comes to sex now. I mean, come on, hand to your heart, can you keep watch on your daughter for 24 hours?. What if your precious daughter finds herself in a situation where sex is inevitable but she doesn’t know how to have safe sex because her daddy refused to tell her what a condom is?.

Please don’t get me wrong. I’m not encouraging minors to have sex. Or even safe sex for that matter. I’m a firm believer of sex after marriage. I’m just saying that why be a coward and run away from the topic?. Why not educate your daughter instead of denying her the knowledge about having safe sex?

I will end with this: This joker wants the Censorship Review Committee to ban children under the age of 18 to have phones with internet. Can you believe this man?.

Now, where’s that Pager?.

 

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The time for ‘talking’ has past.

This was taken from Trapper’s Swamp . The blog post was titled ‘Rise in Singapore teen sex, STI and abortion rates’.

For those of you who still think, for some reason, that abstinence-only sex education will work, the numbers will surprise you.

The number of statutory rape cases involving girls under 14 in Singapore jumped more than 70 per cent in 2009 when compared to 2008. Most of the cases were surprisingly consensual sex amongst casual friends and boyfriends, most of whom were about the same age.

STDs and abortion rates amongst teens in Singapore are also on the rise. Last year, 787 teens caught STDs, more than three times the 238 in 2002. Teenage abortions last year was 1,289.

These numbers prove that we need a more realistic approach in providing teens with the knowledge they need to keep themselves safe. Perhaps more disturbingly is this:

The cases were mostly reported by girls’ parents or teachers once they found out.

And needless to say, there are more that were not caught in the act. Think about that.

(via @theAsianparent)

The author, Callan Tham , hit home the point when he said: And needless to say, there are more that were not caught in the act. Think about that.’ There is an interesting argument going on in his blog. Please go and make your views heard. I bet he will appreciate that 🙂

This article was taken from the 6th August 2009 edition of The Straits Times , the headline is ‘Teens having sex earlier’

It is a sign of the times – More girls aged below 14 are having sex.

The police have now tabbed this as a worrying crime issue, and are trying to keep a lid on the problem.

Crime statistics issued on Wednesday for the first half of the year showed that the number of statutory rape cases involving girls under 14 jumped more than 70 per cent, to 37 cases, compared to the same period last year.

Consensual sex was often at the heart of the problem. Many of the girls had sex with casual friends and boyfriends, most of whom were about the same age.

But when the girls’ parents, or in some cases, teachers, found out, they were determined that action be taken, and reported the cases to the police, who took action.

When the cases go to court, a variety of punishments are dished out. If the culprits are youngsters themselves, they might be fined, sent for reformative training, given probation or even jailed, said Mr Patrick Tan, a lawyer in private practice.

In one case involving a 19-year-old youth and a 12-year-old girl, the teen was fined $8,000.

But if older men are involved, more severe sentences are handed down. For instance, one 32-year-old man who had sex with a 12-year-old girl he met through a friend was jailed seven years and ordered to be caned 18 times.

The girls involved in such cases are not punished, even if they initiate sex, lawyers said. But they are sometimes counselled, or sent to homes.

But beyond landing those involved in trouble with the law, teen sex also causes other problems. Many such trysts lead to unwanted pregnancies, abortions, and a rise in the number of sexually-transmitted infections (STIs) and HIV.

Last year, 787 teens caught STIs, more than three times the 238 in 2002. For HIV, the figure rose from one in 2002 to nine in 2007. The total number of teenage abortions last year was 1,289.

Terrible news isn’t it?. Its horrifying to say the least. As I applaud the parents and teachers for reporting the cases instead of covering up, and the court for punishing the offenders, I emphasised once again that punishment is the way forward.

Yes, I agree, we should educate them. But education can only go so far. Trust me on this. Teens these days have ‘stopped listening and start doing’. So I say its time we ‘stop talking and start doing’ too.

I have a close friend of mine, she got pregnant at 14, the guy refuses to even visit the baby and now the baby is being passed around. Is this what we want to see happening in the near future?.

While I’m comforted that alot of people have started voicing their opinons as witnessed in this FB Note , I believe that our main focus should be looking at how to stop a teenage couple from having sexual intercourse. We stop the sex, we stop the diseases. Like Callan, I too, thought that I was the only one concerned about this issue.

This suggestion is just off the top of my head. Please don’t quote me on this.

As I said, punishment is the way forward. But what do we do after that?. Yes. Continue to educate them. This is where I believe AWARE and MOE can step in to help. MOE should give AWARE back their sexuality programmes while going through the process of how its done. I understand that AWARE is a NGO, so it can teach and spread the message to a certain extent but nothing is impossible.

If you disagree with me, I would like to hear you arguments 🙂

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Young and not so innocent? Part 3

This article was taken from the 6th August 2009 edition of The Straits Times . The headline was ‘Duo jailed for obscene act’. This is a continuation of my earlier post ‘Young and not so innocent?’ .

Two men who committed an obscene act on a 15-year-old boy on separate occasions were each jailed three months on Wednesday.

Victor Ng Yong You, 25, then a property agent, and Thomas Song Choong Chen, 36, a supervisor, had earlier pleaded guilty to their respective offences last month. They are the second and third persons to be dealt with in court.

Quek Hock Sing, 42, has since been dealt with for a similar offence against the teenager.

A district court heard that the victim, now 17, had been chatting with people on social networking websites since he was in Primary 3.

In 2004, he found out about an online chatroom popular with homosexual men, and started chatting with strangers.

In December 2006, desperate for money, he started posting messages on the site, ‘seeking paid fun’. He claimed he was 16 but would give his real age when he met or spoke to the other party on the phone.

In January 2007, the victim chatted with Ng online and asked if he could give him a lift to Wisma Atria to collect his phone. The victim offered his sexual service in exchange for Ng’s help.

After fetching the boy, Ng drove to an underground carpark in Bukit Merah where he committed the obscene act on the victim.

In Song’s case, the court heard that he went to the victim’s flat around early 2007 and paid him $50 for his sexual services.

The victim’s mother made a police report in May 2007 after someone called and told her about her son’s activities over the Internet.

Ng and Song could each have been fined up to $5,000 and/or jailed for up to two years for the offence under the Children and Young Persons Act.

The cases against two others are pending while the court had called for a pre-sentence report on Muhammad Hafashah Mohd Aslam, 21, who admitted to having the victim perform oral sex on him on Aug 26.

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Young and not so innocent? Part 2

I was reading this article from the 30 July 2009 edition of  TODAY . The headline was From ‘compensated dating’ to micro-mini skirts, are teenagers getting too sexed up? Its by Tabitha Wang

My husband’s niece came over to stay for a bit. She is only 16, but she was so self-assured that we kept forgetting that she was just a kid.

Even more eye-opening were her clothes. In summer, Hong Kong can be hotter than Singapore, so she wore a see-through blouse over a bikini top. Doing the laundry, I found myself folding micro-minis no wider than my dishcloths and shorts so skimpy I thought they were underwear.

She made me feel so old. In fact, she made me feel like I’d turned into my mother. Half the time she was going out with us, I had to bite my lip to stop myself from saying: “You’re not going out in that!”
Not being a mother, much less one of a teenage girl, I have never paid attention to their type of clothes available in the shops. Then I went shopping with my niece and soon found out that for this age group, it is micro-mini shorts, micro-mini tops … In fact, micro-mini everything.

Call me a fuddy-duddy, but I don’t remember teenage girls being so sexed-up before – not just in their, dressing but their attitude. These days, they can’t seem to wait to be adults.

When local clothing chain Bauhaus was looking for models for its new line, more than 200 youngsters queued up in one of the hottest days of the year for a chance to win the HK$50,000 ($9,300) coupons. Some girls as young as 14 came in their school uniforms for the tryouts and said they were happy to pose in bikinis should the need arise.

At a recent book fair, the focus was not on the books, but on so-called pseudo-models, teenage girls with nothing to recommend themselves but an ample chest and a willingness to contort their bodies into suggestive poses to sell their picture books.

When I was 16 (and that was a long time ago), my friends and I were happy to be kids. Sure, we rebelled, but that just meant gelling our hair, putting on mascara and hanging out at shopping centres, thinking we were the epitome of cool.

We never even knew about the kind of stuff teens seem to get into these days. Our idea of naughty was giggling at diagrams of human reproductive organs in our biology book. The biggest scandal during our secondary school years was when a girl got pregnant and dropped out to get married. We talked about that for years,

Maybe we were nerds, but I don’t think any one of us got ticked off for shortening our uniform skirts or playing truant. It just wasn’t an option.

The teenaged girls these days seem to be into hard-core rebellion.

The hottest topic in town now is the 16-year-old girl who ended up killed. Her body was chopped into little pieces and either flushed down the toilet or put among pig bones in the market.

What was probably just as shocking as the crime was that her alleged killer had met the girl on a Hong Kong website specialising in “compensated dating”, a euphemism for prostitution among teenagers.

The trend started in Japan but it is popular now among Hong Kong teenage girls who offer sex for money. And these aren’t just school dropouts looking for a drug fix or something to feed or house themselves.

Some are students from reputable schools who see nothing wrong in selling their bodies so they can afford branded goods or an expensive holiday.

A teacher friend is thinking of giving up her job at a girls’ school. “My pupils are not interested in studying,” she complained. “I’ve tried everything but all they’re interested in is make-up, clothes and boys.”

Whatever happened to the innocence of youth? Maybe we were all too protected but that allowed us to enjoy our carefree school days a lot more without the problems of grown-up life intruding.

Why the desire to grow up before their time? Life is painful and complicated enough when you do grow up. So isn’t it better to have some innocent pleasures you can look back on when the going gets tough?

I agree with her. What happened to our innocence of  youth?.

Youths used to hang out and chill. Like go the arcades and movies. Yes, they push the boundaries by experimenting with drugs and ciggarettes. We all go through that stage. But going in to prositution is a step too far.

I’m all for punishing adults who have sex with minors. It used to be adults watching child porn, then having teachers having sex with their students. But its different now. We must accept that. Its the teenagers who go out and look for adults to sell their body for money. Can we blame the parents for that? Or the Govermnent for that matter? Or should minors be taught a lesson at the same time we punish the adults?.

I’m say to say this but just go down to Orchard Road and stand there for a moment. What do you see?. Girls with short skirts or pants, dyed hair, smoking. Guys even put on make up now. There is no more innocence in a child or a teen anymore.

What have our children become?.

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Young and not so innocent?

This article was taken from The New Paper dated July 30, 2009. The headline was ‘Teen sold himself for money’

He wanted to look good and dress well. So the teenager, then aged 15, decided to get money from strangers, offering ‘paid fun’.

His mother knew nothing about his prostitution, though she did notice that he wore expensive clothes and had lots of money. But an anonymous phone call out of the blue revealed the unpleasant truth in May 2007. After she confronted her son and learnt what he was up to, she lodged a police report on 18 May that year.

According to court documents, the boy had been chatting with strangers on social networking websites since he was in Primary 3. He came across a website popular with homosexuals here five years ago and later started posting messages and chatting there.

In December 2006, as he needed money to ‘maintain his lifestyle’, the boy posted messages on the website saying he was ‘seeking paid fun’. The boy cannot be named due to a court order.

Age revealed upon meeting

 

 

On the website, he said he was 16, but he revealed his real age to anyone he met personally or chatted with on the telephone.

A month or two after the boy posted the messages, Thomas Song Choon Chen, 37, responded and agreed to pay him $50 in exchange for sexual favours. The boy told Chen his address and they met at the boy’s home at 9am the same day.

When Chen arrived at the flat, the boy, who was in school uniform, told him he was actually 15 years old. After leading Chen to his bedroom, the boy undressed himself. Chen then performed sexual acts with the boy and paid the boy later and left. Chen kept in touch with the boy for some time, but the relationship later ended.

Assistant nurse Muhammad Hafashah Mohd Aslam, now 21, got to know the boy online through the same website around February 2007. The boy offered sexual services and Muhammad Hafashah agreed.

After meeting at the void deck of Muhammad Hafashah’s HDB flat in Jurong West, they went to a community centre nearby. They then went to a toilet for the handicapped there. After the sexual acts, they both cleaned up and went to an ATM nearby, where Muhammad Hafashah withdrew $100 to pay the boy.

In January 2007, Victor Ng Yong You, 25, got to know the boy via the website. The boy offered sexual services to Ng in exchange for a lift to Wisma Atria. Ng agreed and he went to pick up the boy.

Before heading to Wisma Atria, Ng drove him to an underground carpark in Bukit Merah to engage in sexual acts. The two later went to Wisma Atria and Ng then dropped the boy at the boy’s girlfriend’s home. Neither Muhammad Hafashah nor Ng kept in touch with the boy after the acts.

 

 Pleaded guilty

Yesterday, Muhammad Hafashah, Ng and Song, pleaded guilty in the Subordinate Courts to one charge each of performing obscene acts with the teen.

They and three other men were earlier charged with committing unnatural offences under sections 377 and 377A of the Penal Code, but the charges were later reduced to committing obscene or indecent acts under the Children and Young Persons Act. Muhammad Hafashah and Ng each had one other charge, which was taken into consideration.

Another man, Quek Hock Seng, 42, pleaded guilty in January to one charge and was sentenced to four months’ jail.The cases of two other men – Ng Geng Whye, 50, and Balasundram Suppiah, 40 – will be heard next month.

In his mitigation plea, Muhammad Hafashah’s lawyer, Mr S Balamurugan, said his client went to the website as he was confused about his sexual orientation then. This led him to commit the offence, which was his first, Mr Balamurugan said.

He said his client, who had since undergone counselling, was now in a relationship with a young woman, and had been accepted for a nursing course at Ngee Ann Polytechnic. Mr Balamurugan urged District Judge Sarjit Singh to consider probation for him.

Judge Singh asked for a pre-sentence report on Muhammad Hafashah, and his case will be heard again on 26 Aug. Ng and Song will be sentenced on 5 Aug. Anyone guilty of committing obscene or indecent acts with a child or young person can be jailed for up to two years and fined up to $5,000.  They can be jailed up to four years and fined up to $10,000 for each subsequent offence

I don’t understand. Is the teen not guilty at all?. He was the one who instigated the men for sexual favours. To me, when I read the article, I felt that the teen was as guilty as the men who got charged. I mean what if he /she influence their friends to do the same thing?

This article was taken from Youth.SG :

All children will be protected from sexual exploitation under a new law. The Home Affairs Ministry is proposing new laws to punish those who operate, promote or go on child sex tours. It also aims to protect young people and those with mental illness from sexual exploitation.  But it is also leaving sexual conduct between consenting adults private. The Ministry is also proposing to repeal four laws which have become irrelevant or archaic. The proposed changes are in line with Singapore’s push for a more open, compassionate society.

Maybe its time for Singapore to introduce a law which punishes minors who prostitute themselves?. How can we have a ‘more open, compassionate society’ when a kid grows up to be a prostitute?.

 

 

 

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